The expansion of Social Media increased the diffusion of personal growth content. Tips and hacks are overly present on the Internet.
You might even start doubting whether or not the advice works. Perhaps you applied a few principles in your life and saw great results or nothing at all.
But, which criteria did you use to assess your results?
Most people use comparison. They compare their growth with others to define the legitimacy of a principle. If they have the same or a better outcome, the advice has worked very well (thanks to them). If, on the contrary, the result is poor or nonexistent, they blame the principle (and not them).
The latter leads some people to ask the question “why personal growth advice doesn’t work anymore?”
In this blog posts, I’ll do my best to answer that question.
What is Personal Growth?
Personal growth is the process by which a person is aware of and continually develops himself to reach his full potential. Self-improvement is an essential part of a person’s life and journey.
Life is about growth. We can see this truth by looking at Nature. It is always changing, evolving and recovering. If you’re not growing, you might be dying. Growth should always be your goal, not death.
If you’re not willing to risk you cannot grow, and if you cannot grow you cannot become your best, and if you cannot become your best, you cannot be happy, and if you cannot be happy what else is there?Les Brown.
Every area of your life can be improved:
- Your Health,
- Your Finances,
- Your Relationships,
- Your Career,
- Your Spiritual Life.
You can use personal growth’s techniques, and principles to do so.
For instance, you can improve your finances by learning how to manage your earnings and daily expenses.
You can have healthier relationships with your co-workers, friends and family by working on yourself (emotions, value system, self-belief).
You can build a successful career by acquiring new skills or networking.
You can have a powerful spiritual life by practising prayer, meditation or journaling.
You don’t have to improve your entire life at the same time. You can choose to work on one aspect and then move on to another one. Don’t pressure yourself. Don’t compare yourself.
Your path is the right one for you.
It is Personal
Most people believe personal growth advice is about getting external possessions (money, house, career, family, and so on).
But in reality, it is about developing your inner power:
- Mental & Emotional Intelligence,
- Spiritual connection,
- Psychological capabilities,
- Physical strength.
Moreover, people tend to compare the outcome of their growth with each other, especially on social media. This creates frustrations, anxiety and worries—three unhealthy emotions (if left unchecked).
Remember that personal growth is above all: Personal.
Again, personal growth is above all: P.E.R.S.O.N.A.L.
You have to keep that in mind. You can’t compare your progress with another person because you don’t have the same life. There is only one you, and there will always be one you.
Don’t measure your progress using someone else’s opinion.
What has made a person successful in one area might not work for you. And that is fine. If everybody had the same path and results, life would be boring. We will all look alike. There is no success in being a copycat. On the contrary, your uniqueness makes you successful.
Although self-improvement is personal, you can use professional help to get the result you wish to obtain (life coach, therapist, spiritual teacher). Books are also a great way to improve yourself and to gain access to different perspectives.
It Works, if You work It
Personal growth advice works if you work it! There is no magic in it.
You have to believe in yourself and your abilities. You can improve your life. You can be a better person. You can become your best self.
All it takes is work and self-belief.